meron nga eh, tapos wala lang.

meron nga eh, tapos wala lang. originally posted 18 october 2008.

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anong iniisip mo? wala lang.
anong nararamdaman mo? wala lang.
ano bang problema? wala lang.
bakit ka ba naiinis? wala lang.
bakit ka tahimik? wala lang.

some few weeks ago, i had a very interesting conversation with a friend…and during that conversation, this line “meron nga eh, tapos wala lang” surfaced. i just felt the need to get my thoughts out in light of this line because like many of you out there, i am guilty of that line too. i couldnt even count the number of times when i’ve used “wala lang” as a reply to a question that may have merited a better answer.

so why do we say wala lang when in fact, meron naman?!

well…wala lang. hahahaha :D
i guess because its easy. instead of explaining or elaborating on a subject, when we say wala lang, the conversation immediately loses its potential to go deeper or in other words, it terminates the conversation. i mean dba? what could be your follow up question there? eh wala lang nga. meaning, there’s nothing to talk about.

or sometimes, that’s just it. we dont want to talk about it. we dont even want to think about it (even if in reality we really are). we just dont want to grow conscious that we are at least to a degree, absorbed by a subject.

or, it could be that, you are in denial that there really is something and you are trying to convince others and more so, yourself na wala lang. you dont want to admit it even to yourself that something is there.

it could also be culture. filipinos arent very popular to be the confrontative type. instead of pouring out our thoughts, we have the tendency to just brush it off. kahit pa nagsisintir na yung damdamin natin, we have the tendency to just keep our feelings and thoughts to ourselves to avoid conflict with others or within us.

with all these, i get to thinking. geesh. life is short. it may seem otherwise but it is. so if we feel something, its best that we deal with it. some people would say that they are dealing with it by not dealing with it. and in my opinion, mali. but of course im not saying that we go out there and confront people we dislike or like and pour out everything. we still have to be mature and as level headed as possible about it. we would still choose our battles so to speak.

i guess what im saying is that, if there is something, we have to at least admit it to ourselves that yeah, there is incongruence. things are not as peaceful. there is tremor. there’s a dark cloud. there’s an intense emotion. there is fondness. there are happy thoughts. there’s a pleasant feeling. there is love. there is anger. but maybe we are not ready to talk about them YET. there is, but not yet. eventually, sure. at least that way, something has been resolved - well, at least to our level and from there, we work our way out to let significant others in on what’s happening.

comments:

MMDM said,

on November 20th, 2008 at 12:04 am

Well said! ang galing! totoo nga naman yung sinabi mo gelle :D